“I’m in a bit of a dilemma. I’ve been hanging with this chick who’s real flirty but she told me early on that she didn’t want a relationship because we’d be graduating soon. Come to find out she actually has a boyfriend. My friendship with this chick is essentially a relationship minus the affection and title. I don’t know how to get out of this hole. I haven’t crossed any lines that “her boyfriend” would be angry with but she’s crossing lines.”

I’m going to have to refer to my relationship guru on this one, Billy Crystal’s characters in When Harry Met Sally—Harry Burns. He said,”men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.” I think this is what’s happening in your supposed friendship with this girl. There is a lot going wrong here and the easiest solution is to stop being friends with her.

You definitely can’t be a friend with a girl you like, that’s just like pushing a bruise, especially when she’s dating someone else. The easy way out is to leave.

But I know what you’re thinking: you really like her, she’s great, you want to be with her, she might be the one. So let’s just forget the fact that she’s a liar, a cheater and obviously not a great girlfriend. And don’t argue that she’s not a cheater: While there hasn’t been any physical cheating on her part, there’s definitely been emotional cheating, which is just as bad, if not worse. You need to be really honest with her. Tell her you like her more than a friend and feel as though she’s been leading you on.

She should either change her actions towards you or decide that it’s best that you two aren’t friends. Emphasis on ‘should’. Unfortunately, what she will most likely do is deny it and continue with her flirty, feminine wiles. You are not totally blameless in this situation. You are helping her emotionally cheat. Those who help someone cheat are just as much to blame as the cheater.

So I’m hoping by now, you realize she isn’t the one and you can just drop this girl. Take her number out of your phone, de-friend her on Facebook, just get her out of your life.

For future reference, just because you’re graduating doesn’t mean a girl won’t go out with you. She doesn’t want to, because she doesn’t want to be with you. If she really liked you, nothing would get in the way of that. So be honest with her and cut your losses, in the end it will be better for you, and her.