I am going to say something that most guys don’t say and if they do, are not proud of it.
I am a virgin.
Yes, ladies and gentlemen, I, Matt Walton have yet to engage in the experience of sex in my 20 plus years of living. Now, this is not because I am some sort of loser that can’t get some, but rather because I think that sex should be reserved for after the wedding bells of marriage. In fact, I think that since I am a virgin I am more of a gold medal winner than some loser kid never picked for a game of pickup basketball.
Some out there might wonder why I have chosen to lead this life free of sex until I say the magic words “I do.” This was a personal promise that I made when I was going into high school after I attended a church youth conference. This has not been an easy pledge for me to keep through my adolescence and college years. In the past I have told girls no; accordingly, I know that I am better off for it. Much of my desire to keep my “V-Card” stems from many reasons– some personal, others religious, and then there are those that just make sense to me.
Pregnancy is one of the many unwanted results of premarital sex. Nationally, nearly one million young women under age 20 become pregnant each year. That means close to 2800 teens get pregnant each day. Personally, I’ve seen the consequences of not waiting until marriage within my own family.
While it is true that there are methods of birth control, there are always accidents. Additionally, having an unwanted pregnancy will also lead to another crucial prenatal decision that must be made, but for now I will not go down that slippery path.
Another consequence of premarital sex is disease. Protection is available to people when they have sex, but much like birth control, misfortune can also come knocking at your door. Only abstaining from sex until marriage can protect against both of these.
Then there are the religious reasons for abstinence and the most important reasons for me. It is within my relationship with God that the holy act of intercourse should be between a husband and wife after they pledge their relationship to the Holy Father. God wants us to live a pure life and in doing so we need to keep ourselves from sexual promiscuity. We need to learn to appreciate and dignify our body and spirit, not abuse it, as is so common among those who know nothing of God.
Yes, we can and should show affection to our boyfriend or girlfriend. However, I think that when you engage in the practice of premarital sex, that crosses the line of promiscuity. Not to worry if you have not waited, because like everything else, God will not condemn you, but offers forgiveness.
Waiting to give your virginity to someone is something special; it should be reserved only for your husband or wife. Waiting until you are married to engage in sex will make the experience truly amazing.
It’s like you’re at the pool on a hot summer day. The water feels great once you get in, but once you’re in the pool the water does not feel as wonderful as it did before.
Much the same can be said about sex. True, you can have a good experience with your “first,” but it will be nothing like when you wait until you are connected on more than just a physical level. When you have sex with a person, he or she leaves some of him or herself behind with you and he or she also takes as much, if not more, from you.
I have chosen to give my full self to a wonderful women that I will love (I know she is out there somewhere), not just a much smaller part of me that has been taken by others over time.
Too often in our society we glorify sex outside of marriage, especially within our college years. I know guys that will sit around telling stories about their latest “bang,” then I turn around and see the hit TV show “Sex in the City” depicting how wonderful it is for women to sleep around. When I hear and see all of this I ask myself, “Is there anything deeper than just the physical experience of sex?” I tend to believe that the stories told among guys and the lives portrayed on TV do not contain deep spiritual or emotional connections. It is with these connections that make sex the truly awesome experience it is meant to be.
So ladies, indeed I am a single man, but I am not going to have sex with any of you. I would love to meet you, take you out on a date, and who knows– if all goes well we might even begin a relationship. I am a guy that is content in staying a virgin until my bride walks down that aisle and she and I say “I do.”
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