Over my past year at State, I’ve had the opportunity to get to know some really great, genuine guys, all of whom were single. Sometimes I’ve wondered how such decent guys could be single, but I’ve realized the old cliche about nice guys finishing last is true. The situation is not helped when these males don’t know how to properly ask a lady out or how to begin the courtship phase. So for all you guys, look no further. I want to see you succeed.
When it comes to finding the right woman for you, men, please stop looking in all the wrong places. If you say you would never marry a woman you would meet at the bar or in a club, then don’t make yourself available in such places. This is not to say that there aren’t women of quality in clubs and bars, but honestly, if you are looking for a relationship and commitment, I would recommend that you look elsewhere.
Ask yourself what traits you would like in a women. If a studious girl who is serious about her grades is sexy to you, then hang around D.H. Hill a little longer. Or if a girl who likes to stay in shape fits your perfect mate picture, then why not lift weights or go running in Carmichael several times a week?
Of course, there is always a right and a wrong way to approach a woman. Please don’t use a cheesy pick-up line. They sound ridiculous and make the guy seem desperate and unable to start a real conversation. If you want to catch a lady’s attention, be original in what you say or even compliment her on an article of clothing. Be honest in your compliment, because she will see through the lie. There is nothing like a guy who has a way with words.
Your words aren’t everything, though. If your body language gives the impression you’re not interested, it will be obvious. Listen to her, be funny in your own way and flirt without overdoing it. If you have the “I want to get in your pants” attitude, then any respectable lady will be turned off and lose interest.
If you’re lucky to get a good catch, take her first on a fun date followed by one where you can have real conversation. Guys on a budget should consider something casual, like going bowling or even just a walk at Crabtree Valley Mall where you can let her open up in a low-pressure environment.
Whatever you decide, be respectful, be chivalrous — opening up doors for her is a huge plus — and be honest about who you are. If she finds that you misrepresented yourself, then she will not trust you.
Females are not as mysterious as guys make them out to be. Guys, keep it simple, be honest and go to places where you can find a lady with similar interests. Nice guys shouldn’t finish last.
Let us know how your dating experiences go. E-mail us at [email protected].