The fact of the matter is that virginity is a very sensitive subject, even though some people think of virgins as if they were Steve Carell, marching around an apartment blaring a trumpet. The media does a wonderful job at making people who have yet to swipe their V-Card out as ridiculously awkward or annoying.
Any socially conscious human being would realize that this is simply not true. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of.
In high school, the topics of sex and sexuality are touched on a bit. But once college begins you are basically on your own. As an adult, people expect you to act like an adult. Unless you are connected to a religious group that values virginity you will receive minimal, if any, reliable help. I find this disappointing. For many of us, sex is like a “right of passage” or a “stepping stone ” into our adult lives. When people start sharing stories, sometimes it’s hard not having anything to add.
It has been my experience that females are more accepting of the idea of virginity than males. I am not attempting to generalize to the entire population, but I imagine male virgins get more anguish from their same sex peers than females. They are taunted for having not “hit that” yet. On the flipside, women can be seen as “teases” or “prudes” for not having sex. Either way, someone’s decision to abstain or “wait for the right one” should be respected, not ridiculed.
The general public most likely sees college as nothing but drinking and sex. Shows like ABC Family’s “Greek” have done a fabulous job heightening this stereotype. The people that live the extreme lives (like the fictional characters on television) always get the most attention and this makes for a false representation of the majority. Then there are those people that do a lot of talking, but have nothing to show for it; I believe most of the sexual rendezvous they speak of are lies, nothing more.
Another misconception about sex is that it’s the most fabulous thing next to sliced bread. This is a lie. Doves are not released, there are no fireworks and there is no beautiful orchestra in the background to celebrate your sexual intercourse, although I’m sure as long as you share this special moment with a special person all the bumps and mistakes will be worth it. If you choose to stay a virgin, hold your head up high. Virginity is not as lame as the Jonas Brothers make it seem. You don’t have to go around making an elaborate scene of your piety with purity rings and “Little Miss Virgin” T-shirts. It can be something you personally uphold. If you are one who is dying to lose your virginity, you might want to wait. You could actually find someone you like versus that random person at the bar with the weird tick.
No matter what age you are, it’s better to wait for someone worthwhile instead of settling for something you know is going to end badly. You can only lose your virginity once; make the most of it. If the 40-year-old virgin can be happy, so can you.
