Dear Avani,Summer rolled around the corner, and I was expecting all of the college life to disappear. Classes were supposed to end, and I was supposed to go out and find myself the new beginnings of my life. And in that plan, I saw my girlfriend moving with me to my new job. Unfortunately, she didn’t see it the same way, and she is flying out to the West Coast. We both don’t know whether it is reasonable to remain loyal to each other for that long of a time. What I want to know is whether or not it is reasonable for me to ask for a long distance relationship, but expect it to be completely open.-Wandering Eyes. Understand that although you and your girlfriend are in the same relationship, you both are separate units that are completely capable of existing individually. I feel far too many couples make the mistake of being too reliant on their relationship, forgetting the fact that relationships are not necessarily set in stone. If your life is taking you two apart, acknowledge the diverging paths and be willing to make that separation. The second issue at hand is loyalty. I feel that healthy relationships have some fundamental elements that should be unwavering: loyalty being one of them.  If you are worried about how loyal you will be to her or how loyal she will be to you from afar, maybe you need to reconsider the seriousness of your relationships. Long-distance relationships are meant for people who don’t want to see anyone but the person they are with, no matter how far away they may be. If you want to be in an “open relationship”, why bother being in a relationship at all? Obviously, if you’re considering openness in your relationship, you want to be able to explore your other options. Take that liberty for yourself, and give the same to her without the guilt of commitment attached to it.  For far too many cases, distance has proven to be the demise of a relationship. In a way, summer is a test of sorts, to see if a relationship can stand the turbulence of physical separation. Often times, a relationship is based solely on the physical and not the emotional. This, I feel, defeats the purpose of sharing an emotional connection with someone. Physical benefits should come with being emotionally linked, not the other way around. College relationships, as it is, are extremely stressful and demanding. Along with the normal stress of a relationship, the two of you are still growing up and maturing. On top of all of that, you both are taking separate routes in life. Being at the place that you two are, a long-distance relationship without commitment is quiet honestly pointless.  To answer your question, it is unreasonable to ask for an open, long-distance relationship. You can’t have your cake and eat it too, so pick a side. You can either be with her and be completely loyal, regardless of how far away she is, or find a more convenient relationship. If both fail, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Take it from someone who knows.